It's all very well to say that all of us, especially those of us who are introverts, are entitled to live as we choose. But sometimes the words we need to use to set boundaries without causing offense don't easily come off our tongues. So we stammer justifications and fumble with excuses—and often end up just acquiescing to whatever others want anyway, because we simply can't find the solid ground we need for expressing our need for space, time, or solitude. What is that solid ground?
You need what you need, and whether what you you need solitude, or to go home, or to just say no or set any other boundary you feel you need, no one should be able to convince you that you're not justified. Sure, a little white lie now and then can do the trick, but the upside of actually telling the truth about your introverted needs is that the more honest you are, the more people will understand and the more accustomed they will get to letting have the space you need. Following are some suggestions for what to say in various situations:
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