As the New Year dawns, we humans have a longing to recommit, to make aspirational promises and pledges. “I will eat healthier.” “I will be in touch with old friends.” “I will exercise.” These are all so good! But we tend to plan and do these things from the perspective of ourselves as individuals. This season, let’s make our individual recommitments but this year, let’s also recommit as families and communities too.
Let’s make resolutions that will inspire and activate all the best parts of how we come together in our core circles of humanity. Let’s plan how we will best take care of each other this year. How we can best count on each other. Instead of rushing to buy that one last gift, or to spend more money, we can create a model over the holiday season that inspires us going forward together into 2014. Spending time together. Laughing together. Loving each other. Taking time to really see each other. With this inspiration from this season, 2014 can become our strongest year ever.
Read more from Psychology Today
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Victoria Ehmen MA LMFT is a certified Sex Therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist in Volusia County for 22 years . (386) 253-2531
Tips for Surviving the Holidays
As many of us head home on the busiest travel day of the year, we can look forward to relaxation, time with family, good food and good presents. But many of us may also be anxiously anticipating terrible traffic, long travels, time with family, guilt-inducing meals, and awkward gift exchanges. So just like last year, I've compiled a few scientifically-based tips to help make your holidays a little brighter.
Here is how (Source: Psychology Today)
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Victoria Ehmen MA LMFT is a certified Sex Therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist in Volusia County for 22 years . (386) 253-2531
Here is how (Source: Psychology Today)
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Victoria Ehmen MA LMFT is a certified Sex Therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist in Volusia County for 22 years . (386) 253-2531
How Workaholics Can Relax Right During the Holidays
So the holidays have arrived and that detested stretch of time when nothing much happens—a few days before Christmas till a few days after New Year’s is here. The workaholic in you hates it; the long void between the Yuletide and early January makes you feel anxious and powerless. Your nerves jangle and you feel guilty. Irritation and a maybe some depression set in as your frustration mounts.
Let’s face it: Workaholics don’t do vacation well. Especially enforced vacations like the one currently underway, presents and parties be damned.
So what can you do? Read more from Psychology Today
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Victoria Ehmen MA LMFT is a certified Sex Therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist in Volusia County for 22 years . (386) 253-2531
Let’s face it: Workaholics don’t do vacation well. Especially enforced vacations like the one currently underway, presents and parties be damned.
So what can you do? Read more from Psychology Today
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Victoria Ehmen MA LMFT is a certified Sex Therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist in Volusia County for 22 years . (386) 253-2531
The Hidden Role of Flattery and Baby Talk in Romantic Love
Can romantic love transport us back to babyhood bliss?
“O flatter me, for love delights in praises.” ~ Shakespeare, The Two Gentlemen of Verona
The above line provides a kind of paradoxical “antidote” for a more recent quote from Oscar Wilde’s comedy of manners, The Importance of Being Earnest. In this 1894 satiric play Wilde has a character intriguingly state: “The very essence of romance is uncertainty.” Assuming that this counter-intuitive perspective is on target, what might be one of the most effective ways to reduce lovers’ doubts—even though, ironically, these doubts might yet be intrinsic to their romance? What might help enamored partners assure themselves they were every bit as loved as they were loving? That their ever-growing—almost overwhelming—emotional commitment was shared?
When one is in love, nothing could make the lover happier than to feel secure about the other person’s returning that love: That the inflamed—and frankly obsessive—feelings about the object of their passion are in fact reciprocal. If love does in fact “delight in praises,” it is through this flattery that both parties can be encouraged and reassured that their relationship is exceptional, extraordinary, unique.
Read full article from Psychology Today
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Victoria Ehmen MA LMFT is a certified Sex Therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist in Volusia County for 22 years . (386) 253-2531
“O flatter me, for love delights in praises.” ~ Shakespeare, The Two Gentlemen of Verona
The above line provides a kind of paradoxical “antidote” for a more recent quote from Oscar Wilde’s comedy of manners, The Importance of Being Earnest. In this 1894 satiric play Wilde has a character intriguingly state: “The very essence of romance is uncertainty.” Assuming that this counter-intuitive perspective is on target, what might be one of the most effective ways to reduce lovers’ doubts—even though, ironically, these doubts might yet be intrinsic to their romance? What might help enamored partners assure themselves they were every bit as loved as they were loving? That their ever-growing—almost overwhelming—emotional commitment was shared?
When one is in love, nothing could make the lover happier than to feel secure about the other person’s returning that love: That the inflamed—and frankly obsessive—feelings about the object of their passion are in fact reciprocal. If love does in fact “delight in praises,” it is through this flattery that both parties can be encouraged and reassured that their relationship is exceptional, extraordinary, unique.
Read full article from Psychology Today
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Victoria Ehmen MA LMFT is a certified Sex Therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist in Volusia County for 22 years . (386) 253-2531
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